tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27865852.post2383153682753621378..comments2023-08-09T04:45:45.756-05:00Comments on Wish I was there . . .: A Question . . .hexehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14858249707419706445noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27865852.post-86902796602425435232008-01-17T04:12:00.000-05:002008-01-17T04:12:00.000-05:00Difficult one Hexe. I am an only child, so not in ...Difficult one Hexe. I am an only child, so not in a position to give advice. I have trouble imagining what it is like to have a sibling and feel slightly jealous of those who do, but relieved that I don't at the same time! But I do share your fear of what my adult children will be like. Mine are teenagers and so are showing rather more signs of what they will eventually be. So far so good...but who knows. I am a believer in the enormous power of nature over nurture, and I dont think you can do that much to change someone's character. There is no point in messing with your sibling and family. Let them go off and be rude to somebody else...like you would do with anyone that you dont like very much!Rosiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12211663940952195703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27865852.post-39997157656979665422008-01-10T03:56:00.000-05:002008-01-10T03:56:00.000-05:00I'm with Ms Mac... and I don't even have siblings!...I'm with Ms Mac... and I don't even have siblings! There's not an adult in the world who likes being lectured, especially by family members. <BR/><BR/>People normally have what they believe to be a valid reason for their behavior. Taking the bait by calling them on whatever it is you think they're doing will only seem like justification to them.<BR/><BR/>Besides, what's the quickest way to piss off someone who's itching for a confrontation?? Ignore them completely... gets 'em every time.EuroTrippenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12353005471211518350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27865852.post-54867928032639447422008-01-07T11:34:00.000-05:002008-01-07T11:34:00.000-05:00I'm afraid I've learned the very hard way that the...I'm afraid I've learned the very hard way that the best thing to do (at least in my family) is to hold your tongue. All the time. Never say anything about any of your brothers and sisters to anybody, ever. It'll all backfire one day.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Sorry to be so negative darls, I wish I could be more upbeat but I learned my lesson once and once was more than plenty.Ms Machttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08363385142330348970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27865852.post-39332392330017320272008-01-06T09:06:00.000-05:002008-01-06T09:06:00.000-05:00Thank you all for the advice. I tend towards disc...Thank you all for the advice. I tend towards discussion and my family leans towards ignoring the situation. I think what bothered me most was how my sibling treats my parents and the idea that my kids could do the same someday. I am disturbed by the idea that my children could grow up and become unkind people. Thanks again for the kind words and suggestions.hexehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14858249707419706445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27865852.post-56335351066897759572008-01-05T15:08:00.000-05:002008-01-05T15:08:00.000-05:00If this were my brother, I would write him a lette...If this were my brother, I would write him a letter, telling him how hurt you feel about his transgression(s) and that find it unacceptable. Tell him that you would like to understand why he behaved that way. That way, if there's any underlying past hurt on his side, some missunderstanding, whatever, he can communicate with you, he can also choose to ignore it. I believe in reaching out. Don't feel hurt if there's no answer: It may never come, it may take years. He may not even understand what eats him, but a few words from you may at least help him to get thinking why he acts that way. <BR/>Hugs,<BR/>MerisiAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27865852.post-19958912159730317332008-01-05T00:01:00.000-05:002008-01-05T00:01:00.000-05:00Tricky family situation. That totally sucks.Ignor...Tricky family situation. That totally sucks.<BR/>Ignoring the bad behavior, since you hardly see them, was probably a good idea, you don't want to make things worse for your folks.<BR/>However, if the spouse was nasty and overstepped a line the next time you are together, I would probably take them aside and tactfully say something about their verbal attacks on other family members. That kind of crap shouldn't go unchecked because they're jerks.Sunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10614183206836938451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27865852.post-21221976455407746492008-01-03T20:57:00.000-05:002008-01-03T20:57:00.000-05:00I agree completely with Renny. How does your fathe...I agree completely with Renny. How does your father feel about it? I think if the incident really bothers you, you should discuss it with your sibling once you have calmed down. Good luck . . . it sounds like a potentially difficult situation.<BR/><BR/>Thanks so much for your visit to my photoblog, and your nice comment, by the way! Happy New Year!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12131161905010968838noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27865852.post-48001470352108022112008-01-03T14:26:00.000-05:002008-01-03T14:26:00.000-05:00Its a difficult question and not easy to answer, b...Its a difficult question and not easy to answer, but openness is always good. I think it is is important to state your position and tell how you feel about your sibling's behaviour. So instead of attacking with arguing: tell how you feel about it and what it does to you and your closest.<BR/><BR/>Whatever start you've had, I wish you a wonderful 2008!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com